Oh, and something I posted on the national board that I think is worth a read... if you are posting in this thread, I am assuming you are interested in the topic, after all
Some people are reluctant to acknowledge it, but there are some massive, fundamental issues in the African American community as a whole (and yes, obviously discussing something as huge as "the African American community" minimizes individual differences). The issue of the single parent household is one of the primary ones; it leads to more single parent households, to poverty, to more crime, to more domestic abuse... to more everything.
The issue is how these big issues, which seem somewhat independent of race, are actually intricately tied to race and history.
So, most of us see ourselves as the product of our parents, and sometimes our grandparents. We rarely see how far back our familial traits and patterns go.
We are raised by our parents. We see their influence, both positive and negative, in everything we do. Sometimes we actively try to correct what we saw as shortcomings in them.
But really, it goes much, much further back.
Our parents were as influenced by their parents as we are by they.
And THEIR parents were as influenced by THEIR parents, and THEIR parents by THEIR parents, back and back and back.
In truth, all of us were not just raised by our parents... we were actually raised by generations worth of people, and by their experiences and biases and opportunities and expectations and parenting styles and all the rest of it.
And it isn't just personality and DNA and parenting style... it is generations worth of economic decisions, generations worth of education and the approach to it, generations worth of housing decisions... its everything.
Something that is often brushed off as "Well, it was so long ago!" or "Well, just take control of your life" is how powerful and genuine the past influences black American families. African Americans went through generations in which the nuclear family simply did not exist. It just didn't. Entire generations of people grew up without parents, without family, and often specifically without father figures, who were more often sold independently from children than women were. These intense and formative set of experiences were passed down, not genetically but culturally, for years and years.
When this cycle was broken in the late 1800s, you already had hundreds of years of this sort of cultural identity ingrained in so, so much of the African American population. While it certainly improved (how could it not?) it did not disappear, and things like the stressors of how African Americans were "welcomed" by the American economy (blacks not able to get high paying jobs, black not allowed to own businesses, blacks not able to afford decent housing, ) or treated by the American legal system (blacks not offered the same legal protections as white) did not help.
And it is important to remember how long life is, and how much people who are alive today have had passed down to them, and have seen THEMSELVES, and experienced, and then passed down. African Americans alive today faced a time when policemen were members of the KKK and helped lynch their fathers... African Americans alive today went to poor schools and had to fight to be allowed to go to the better, white schools... African Americans alive today were denied treatment at "white" hospitals and had to make do with poorer, "black" hospitals... African Americans alive today were denied loans to move to better homes, jobs that would provide better for their families, legal protections as they moved through the legal system, the ability to serve in their nation's armed forces beside white soldiers... and all of this not really because they were poor or uneducated, but also solely because of the color of their skin.
All of these experiences, these generations of cultural memory and patterns, are passed down from grandfather to father, from father to son. While individuals can strive to break patterns, to form new ones, to look beyond what is passed down, when you look at a culture as a whole you can see how much damage has been done to African American culture because of race.
There's a reason why African Americans face many issues that black people, as a world population, do not. It sucks, it is generations old, and it is likely impossible to eliminate.
But we sure as heck can work to minimize it as best we can, generation by generation.