Uh, from your position, “sending sons to school dressed up as daughters” would qualify as forcing them to live as the other gender. From my standpoint, a trans adolescent whose gender identity is denied or rejected is being forced to live as the other gender. No point arguing either one, specifically, but whichever way we lean, we all agree that being forced to live as something you’re not could be psychologically damaging.
Your questions about accepting who we are all assume that some people aren’t, that people are lying or delusional. It seems pretty clear to me that you know little about these people other than what you have filtered to you through right-wing media.
And I repeat, no one is pushing this on kids. It’s a manipulative lie you’ve fallen for.